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Shyness and loneliness

Shyness and loneliness

Shyness and loneliness

Shyness and loneliness

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Shyness and loneliness

Shyness and loneliness

they and their descendants should always be pathlogically shy with one another.

And when He had so said immediately they covered their genitals,but beause He was really somewhat merciful He presented them with the first clothes, artistically put together of green leaves.

Adam and Eve who had thus learned how to dread their Lord and Master thanked Him wholeheartedly, just as good and obedient children are supposed to do.

Then they continued their work by filling their stomachs with everything but what had been forbidden, but there were some more alterations; the joy, happiness and plainness had disappeared from their lives, because of the restrictions the shyness caused them.

In the modern era the shyness of the sexes towards one another is a grave problem throughout the world.

Wise humans, both men and women state that it´s the main reason for an awkward behaviour of a fast growing group of our brothers and sisters.

The shyness of boys towards girls and vice versa is most often the reason that the consumption of alcohol and drugs starts in the means of getting rid of the lothsome devil of shyness.

The consumption will often grow uncontrollably with many people, thus leading to destruction.

In the wake of my divorce I became a frequent guest of the dance-halls,where there is the best chance of finding others in the same situation.

Then I first realized how gigantic a problem single people are facing.

I´ve visited many places in my quest, such as the Kaffi Reykjavik, the Kringlu-krain and the Hotel Saga in our capitol, the Fjoru-krain in Hafnarfjordur, and the Rain in Keflavik; just to name a few.

These pleasure-grounds are characterized by the fact that their customers don´t visit them in any numbers before midnight.

Incessant until the closing at three am. the drunk and aberrant people grow so intensely in numbers, that you find it improbable.

The despairment of both men and women is obvious in the fast growing purchase of alcohol, when they drink more and more in the means of getting the guts to close in on some promising mate to be.

It hits me hard each time, when girls who seem to shine of assurance go straight to the bar after entering and order two or three tiny glasses with strong liquor.

This they pour down their throats along with the appropriate grimaces and body talk.

The reason is obviously that they are trying to get enough guts for flirting with someone they fancy, who might as well be the love we´re all seeking.

If they only knew, these darlings,that we the men have similar feelings, for the human is a social-being first and foremost who does anything to keep lonelyness away.

We all do want to have someone by our side to take part in our joy and sorrows.

Brothers and sisters!

We have a grave problem on our hands.

How can we eliminate shyness, before it will drive our society, which we are so proud of all the way to hell?

People can barely discuss their innermost feelings, if talking to the opposite sex, but the wind has whispered to me,that women in so-called "sewing-clubs" discuss just about anything.

But the men, who are always competing on the other hand have no sewing-clubs and just seem to hide their feelings deep in their minds, where they get mixed up and distorted.

The consequence:

Alcohol-consuming or other pervertism.

When one picks up and holds to the bosom one´s newborn child it gives the same a remarkable sensation of contentment unlike anything else.

Automatically one gets filled with reverence towards the wonders of nature.

One convinces oneself that one will do just about anything to protect this tiny little creature whilst it needs protection against the evils of life.

Three times have I had the privilege of being at and assisted my childrens´birth.

Then it was remarkable to be able to follow the daily growth and development of these lovely living beings;

how they increased their merry response to the foolery of us grown-ups;

how they at last get perfection in the art of holding up their head;

how they manage to crawl out of the woolblanket, where they are supposed to stay, whilst a parent is doing something else that is crying.

All of a sudden the being takes up walking and then you´ll have to remove all things which could potentially harm them or are of great value, for there´s no sense in verbally banning these infants, who learn by "burning" themselves.

For a while the teaching is limited to repetitions of the exclamation

"Oh, oh",

but with growing verbalability the teaching becomes ever more intellectual.

The molding of an individual who could possibly survive in a society which is often hostile to its subjects, has begun.

When the child´s formal schooling starts the curriculum is limited to subjects of teaching like reading, writing, math, sociology and movement on land or in water.

But there´s something lacking, e.g. expressing, human relations and charity towards the fellow citizens.

Most Icelanders are just like infants when looking at these three items; people who aren´t used to speaking up or defending themselves, communicating with others, than their nearest kinfolk or showing others sympathy, will of course avoid getting into circumstances, where they have to try them.

They are always shy,almost creeping by walls.

They do often isolate themselves and they don´t feel well; think they don´t fit anywhere.

People who don´t know how to express their feelings aren´t able to get along with others, e.g. in a matrimony.

How can we cover this well?

The best way to prevent shyness and the fright of the sexes towards one another is the teaching of dancing in schools.

It's also essential to emphasise the need for good manners in public relations, e.g. pupils must learn how to compliment other people and help the ones in need.

Many people seem to struggle through life without ever getting as much as a praise for a job well done,

e.g. cooking, carpentry or having done well in making a glamorous appearance.

Many Icelanders don´t even know how to accept a praise or a flattery, distrust the ones who perhabs are only paying compliments to people who cheer up the mind in some way.

It´s my proposal here and now, that you, Reader of these lines will take up the good habit of praising others;

e.g. your mate, some lonely looking non-related person you might meet in the supermarket, but especially your own kids and others´,

because children surely need appraisals and everything positive and they will propably imitate such good behaviour.

Take up a chat with strangers and you´ll see that it will improve our society.

You can begin cautiously; one such good deed per day, but with a little practise you'll have become a true professional in human relations shortly and thus we will be able to exile shyness from our community and all its filthy followers such as drunkeness and other pervertism.

What is the reason it´s much more difficult for men than women to talk about their feelings collectively speaking.

Maybe it´s because of mistakes in the upbringing or might there be some failure in the chromosomes and could therefore become a future project of Kari Stefansson and his Icelandic Genetics?

Many a times have I speculated what the reason is why some people attract other people like cowshit does the flies, while many others just have to sit alone in the corner.

Some men don't have any problem enchanting women out of their shoes, when others accomplish nothing, and this seems to go for the women also.

The reason is in many cases people´s shyness toward one another and the rodential fear of being rejected.

The number of lonely people in our society is terribly high.

Ever since I was a teenager being happy alone in my room;

thundering guitar-soloes a la Led Zeppelin in my ears while I plugged the imaginative strings of the luftguitar,

I have felt an urgent need for moving myself about, whenever I hear loud stallion-rock.

And still the need is there, eventhough I´m in my forties.

The worst fault concerning modern places for dancing must be how they have minimized the dance-floors;

they´re not much bigger than ordinary stamps and there the people who want to dance have to concentrade on moving away from other dancers´ jogs all through the dances.

You just never get a chance for showing your real skills.

I´m dreaming of the time when the owners of pleasure-grounds will think more about their customers´dancing-possibilities, but not solely on how much alcohol they consume.

Dancing is a real good way to lose restictions from shyness and when people touch each other in dancing just about anything could happen between a man and a woman.

Best wishes,

Shyness and loneliness

Shyness and loneliness

they and their descendants should always be pathlogically shy with one another.

And when He had so said immediately they covered their genitals,but beause He was really somewhat merciful He presented them with the first clothes, artistically put together of green leaves.

Adam and Eve who had thus learned how to dread their Lord and Master thanked Him wholeheartedly, just as good and obedient children are supposed to do.

Then they continued their work by filling their stomachs with everything but what had been forbidden, but there were some more alterations; the joy, happiness and plainness had disappeared from their lives, because of the restrictions the shyness caused them.